Why does it seem like every time things are going well in your life, that’s when some bull has to pop off? You ever notice that?
I mean just today my husband and I got into it over something dumb, and I caught myself getting upset, but then I remembered: it’s just The Law of Rhythm at work!
CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONSTANT
In life as well as in relationships, change is the only constant. You know this is true, whether you know it consciously or not. Today we’re gonna discuss the universal law of rhythm. Now, if you don’t know about the universal laws I suggest you check them out. Here’s a good book where you can learn about them, or you can watch this YouTube video and then come back.
WHAT DOES THE LAW OF RHYTHM STATE?
Now, on to the law of rhythm. The law of rhythm states that all things flow, all things move in an in and out motion, much like the tides in the ocean. There are many different ways this law shows itself in our reality: day and night, moon phases, the seasons, etc.
Does this mean your relationship is doomed? Kinda. I’m just kidding. No, you’re not doomed unless you believe you are. There’s a way you can use the law of rhythm to improve your relationship instead of destroy it. If you’re interested in learning how, read on.
HOW TO USE THE LAW OF RHYTHM TO BETTER YOUR RELATIONSHIP
1. Change your expectations -You have to stop believing that a relationship won’t have or shouldn’t have any conflict. So yeah. Stop drooling over those #relationshipgoals pictures on the internet.
Please remember it’s fiction! It’s only half of the story of a relationship. Folks don’t take selfies when they’re arguing or on the brink of divorce. But that’s just as real as the cheesy selfie.
2. Learn from the lows -Each and every time you have a fight with your man, there is something to be learned. A lot of the time, it’s not that you need to leave the relationship, it’s just that you need to adjust.
However, if you see every speed bump as a sign that it’s over, you’ll miss the opportunity to grow. I’m super guilty of this one. It’s a mental shift that takes time so be kind to yourself and patient in the process.
3. Celebrate the highs. Tell your man what you like! I swear we as women have got to do better with this. Men love being appreciated. That’s why they work hard and want to accomplish stuff. (At least if he’s a masculine man he works hard). If you can reassure him that you like what he’s doing, he’ll want to keep doing it so he can get that praise again.
PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
So you see? All hope is not lost. When you accept the law of rhythm as a reality of a relationship, you’ll breathe easier.
Just remember, adjust expectations, learn from the lows, and celebrate the highs!
Do you run away when the fights come in your relationship? Or do you learn from the rhythm? Drop a comment!