Now, I know what you’re thinking. Why would we choose to feel undeserving or unworthy? The answer is likely very simple…
It’s the same reason we do a lot of things we do.
Because we are comfortable with it.
Think about it.
If you’re used to complaining to folks about how much life sucks and you never get what you want…if that’s the norm for you…why would you stop?
I remember when I was a classroom teacher and multiple times throughout the day I would run into clusters of teachers
bitching and moaning about how much they weren’t enjoying their day…or how much they couldn’t wait until summer…or how many bad kids they had in their classroom…
Sometimes I would stick around just to see how far off the deep end they would let the conversation go…but something I learned is that it’s really EASY to get in the habit of being negative.
As a matter of fact, it can start to be something you just do. Negativity becomes you. At a certain point you can start to build a community around it, just like some of my teacher friends did.
And it is from this low place that she must find a way to re-learn her value.
The truth is, we all deserve whatever it is we are willing to put energy towards. We deserve what we allow and look for within our lives.
If we walk around always expecting the worst, expecting to be undervalued, misunderstood, and lonely…we should not be confused when our life is filled with things that make us feel this way. Why? We invited it in!
I know that feeling undeserving is a choice because I’ve done it.
I thought I didn’t deserve to be a writer, I thought I didn’t deserve to get married and have a happy family.
Thank goodness I got over that mindset because I am now a happily married author with a toddler.
The point is that we have to realize and take responsibility for the choices that we make with our attitudes and mentalities.
So what say you?
Do you think feeling undeserving is a choice? If you have ever dealt with feling undeserving…how did you deal? I’d love to hear from you!
Nia Venus 💋